QnA who would you choose?

Dear Jen,  I’m dating two guys and only one knows that I’m dating the other.  I’m not a liar by any means but I have had to not exactly tell the other one I’m dating anyone else.  We aren’t exclusive so I didn’t feel like it was a big deal by not saying anything.  I’m beginning to feel guilty for not saying anything.  I know I need to make a decision on who to pick.  I know I can’t continue anymore to date both.  I am extremely conflicted on what to even do.  Can you please give me words of wisdom or advice? Thank you! Stephanie

Hi Stephanie! Thanks for writing for advice- this is super complicated now let’s figure this out.  You need to ask yourself a few questions.

The guy that doesn’t know you are dating anyone else- don’t you think you wouldn’t lie to him if he was “the one”?  

The guy that does know you are dating someone else don’t you think you respect him more since you had the respect to tell him?

Respect is huge in a relationship & needed.  

Give yourself a deadline to figure this out by and be up front with the guy who already knows.  The guy that doesn’t know is most likely going to be irate if he finds out now. You are going to have to figure out if you now want to be honest with him but just know it won’t go well.  What guy wants to be second place or share with another man?  Just human nature there to be upset.  I just have this feeling that the guy you respect the most and you are upfront with will most likely be your front-runner.  🙂  

xoxo

QJen

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QnA another question from a guy!! domesticated wife???

Hi Jen, Listen my wife is NOT domesticated whatsoever.  I think the only issues we have in our marriage is she doesn’t like to cook or clean.  Any suggestions on getting her to do those things?  I need to live in a clean home and have dinners on the table a few times a week.  appreciate it, Rob

Hey Rob-

If it makes you feel any better I’m not domesticated at all either.  Honestly why don’t you hire a college girl to come in and clean twice a week.  It is cheaper than paying for a professional housecleaner.  I once hired a college girl to do all the chores and cooking for me.  She was like my wife… lol… I had dinner on the table for my hubby and the house was cleaned.  She only came over 2 times a week for 2-3 hours… it was well worth the $10 an hour.  Don’t you think?

Thanks!

Jen

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QnA Allergic to cats- does my boyfriend go or cat?

Hi Jen, Going into my relationship  that I’m in I always knew that my boyfriend was allergic to cats but maybe I was in denial.  Things are getting serious and I’m having  feeling that it is either going to be the cats that are going to need to go or I’m going to have to break things off with my boyfriend.  He doesn’t come to my apartment because he says he will sneeze and it would be a disaster.  I may have gotten into a situation that I can’t get out of. thanks, tiff

Hey Tiff-

Love is rare!  Girl it is hard to find a boyfriend yet alone love!! You know I’m a HUGE cat fan but that pales in comparison to the true love you can experience.  If he isn’t “the one” & you know that –then break it off and find someone who isn’t allergic.  There are a billion people out there but of course love is rare!!!  

LET me explain–I’m definitely contradicting myself here. I’ll put it to you this way-  if he is the one then you know what you have to do about your kitties.  Find out what about cats he is allergic to and either find a new cat that is hypoallergenic or give your kitties to your BFF or family member.  If he isn’t the one then don’t waste your time & make having a man who isn’t allergic to cat a priority on your list for finding a man.  You really don’t want your future hubs to be on meds for the rest of his life right?

Xoxo

Jen

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QnA Cell Phone snooping is off limits!

Jen, I have been dating a boyfriend for about four months and he constantly is worrying about what I’m doing on my cell phone.  I’m not a teenager, I am 30.  I think to myself this is a red flag right?  Why in the world would he care?  I also caught him holding my phone once and of course he was probably looking through it. What are your thoughts? Thanks, your fan

Hi Your Fan!  And super flattered by that.  Speaking of “Fans” since living in seattle I’ve had to buy 3 fans bc it randomly got super hot!!! Now it is 70 degrees and I’m thinking why did I just buy those.  Okay back to your question- girl you have been dating him a whole 4 months…. I think you know what to do.  If he is worried about what you are doing on your cell and possibly looking through it then I think he has security issues and definitely trust.  I think you need to communicate with him and let him know that cell phone snooping is off limits.  This is your call on this one- but 4 months is a super short period of time in our life but when you are in it – it definitely feels MUCH longer.  

xoxo

Jen

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Rainbows in Crosswalks

I love how in one neighborhood in Seattle the crosswalks are rainbow!!! I love being able to be in a Seattle that is extremely open.  It doesn’t seem like people judge one another as much as on the east coast.  It is kinda like whatever goes— goes!!

Last week Seattle’s Capitol Hill neighborhood decided to have rainbow crosswalks to support their primarily gay neighborhood. It was trending on Facebook and twitter! How awesome right?  There has been hate crimes in Capitol Hill lately & what a great step by community leaders to take a step & support the gay community.  When you hear this doesn’t it just make you feel like humanity is headed in the right direction?

Relationship Advice…

In my “previous life” I was a serial dater.  I wasn’t exactly proud of that title until I started to teach women & men how to take control of their lives and have the best dates.

Needless to say I am a relationship expert with many dates experience.  I now coach men & women how to raise the bar in their love lives.   When I was dating my first date with men was always spectacular and they would instantly fall for me.  My friends would live through me and ask me how I do it– I was like the bachelorette without having to have the overnight fantasy dates!

I’m now happily married!!! I can teach you how to “catch” the man or woman of your dreams!

 Comment below with your relationship questions & I will answer them.  If you don’t want honest straight forward advice then this might not be the column for you.  You could always click on the pages of my cats for that… they won’t offend you. 🙂

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